Sex is what we all want in a relationship, but it is not something that all men know to do. If you want to please your woman and get her begging for you, there are some things that you need to know.
As a man, you want to perform like a porn star in bed. The woman in your life deserves it and you have to provide. It shouldn’t be difficult but, if you’re like me, there are situations when you feel intimidated.
But don’t worry!!!
I have put together a massive list of sex tips for men, that will help spice up your sex life. From how to approach to some interesting techniques, we have compiled it all.
Let’s take a look…
???? If you’re a woman reading this, hold on! We have sex tips for women too.
50+ sex tips for men who want to be great in bed
If you’re feeling a little stale in the bedroom, here are some essential sex tips that will keep things interesting and bring more passion into your life.
1. Do a lot of foreplay
Do not be one of those men who directly jump to penetrative sex. If you really want to take your partner to the moon and the sex to be spicy, extend the foreplay by a lot.
Foreplay is an important part of sex. It’s what gets you both ready for what’s about to come next. It can include kissing, touching, and even oral sex (if you’re into that). The more foreplay there is, the more likely you are to have a good time during intercourse.
2. Try different rooms and situations
The bedroom is the most common place for sex, but there are many other places that can make for a more exciting romp in the hay — even if it’s only once in a while. Most probably, she will like that a lot.
If you’re like me, most of your sexual activity takes place on one side of the bed — maybe with pillows propped up against the headboard for support. But what about moving around? What about getting out of bed? What about having sex on the kitchen table or against the wall or even on top of the washing machine?
3. Avoid touching her vagina at first
As with many things in life, foreplay can be a double-edged sword. Avoid touching her vagina for as long as possible during the foreplay. At first, focus on her breasts, back, neck, and inner thighs.
And keeping subtle eye contact makes the foreplay even spicier.
4. Offer a sensual massage
Don’t underestimate the power of touch. Massage is all about touching — your hands will be all over her body, so if you want to make a good impression, make sure that you’re giving them a nice rubdown. Focus on sensitive areas like the neck, back, feet, shoulders, breasts, and butts.
And keep things interesting by varying your pressure level as well as speed. This can be done by using different parts of your hand (for example, using the palm or fingertips) or by moving in circles instead of straight lines.
5. Be more vocal
You know sex is a two-way street. Not only do you want to be good at pleasing your partner, but you also want to know what she likes and doesn’t like. Generally, men avoid talking during sex but start practicing being more vocal and she will absolutely enjoy it.
If you’ve been with someone for a while but aren’t sure exactly what she likes in bed, then consider opening up a conversation about their desires before trying anything new.
6. Have morning sex
Morning sex is one of the best ways to start the day on a high note. This is because you’re both still relaxed, happy, and refreshed from a good night’s sleep. It’s also great because it can help you beat the post-coital blues that often come with a late-night session.
If one of you goes to work before the other in the morning, this can be a good way to wake each other up with some loving!
7. Don’t rush things
One of the biggest mistakes men make when having sex is rushing things too much. Women love foreplay as much as men do (if not more), so don’t be afraid to take things slow and make sure she’s fully aroused before moving on to penetration or oral sex.
Pay attention to her body language and let her set the pace, at least sometimes.
8. Let her lead sometimes
If you’re always in control during sex then it can make it boring for both of you — which isn’t good! A good balance between taking charge and letting her lead sometimes will allow both of you to get what you want out of sex without putting too much pressure on either person.
Most women like it when their man takes charge during lovemaking sessions — but every once in a while, she will love taking control.
9. Go down on her
“I want him to go down on me more often.” We hear this all the time from women who love their men to go down on them.
Not just the pleasure, but going down on her shows your confidence and how much you love and care for her.
10. Try quickies sometimes
Quickies can be fun, and spontaneous, and they give that intense rush of pleasure that comes from giving in to the moment. They can be as simple or as elaborate as you want them to be. They don’t have to last long, but they can still be extremely satisfying.
These short sessions of lovemaking can help relieve stress by providing an outlet for pent-up sexual desire, thus making the woman feel satisfied quickly.
11. Stretch more often
Stretching helps increase flexibility, which can make it easier to get into the right positions. It also helps prevent injuries that can happen during sex — or even just from other activities throughout your day.
Improving your flexibility will not only help you have better sex, but it will also improve your overall health and fitness levels. Plus, it’s a great way to relieve stress and take some time for yourself!
12. Boost your testosterone levels
Testosterone is the male sex hormone responsible for building muscle, strength, and energy. It also helps boost libido and sexual function.
Boosting your testosterone levels is the best thing that you can do to make your sex life spicy. Some ways to boost your T levels are to eat more protein, lift weights, and take testosterone supplements.
13. Learn about her body
Men often think they know everything there is to know about women’s bodies, but there are always surprises waiting! Discover what turns her on and what makes her feel good. Most women don’t like being taken by surprise in bed (unless it’s a surprise orgasm!).
If you want to give her an orgasm during intercourse, learn how she likes to be touched so that she can get there quickly and easily every time. Then show off your knowledge by giving her exactly what she wants!
14. Maintain personal hygiene
Personal hygiene is an important part of the sexual experience. A clean body and mind will make you feel more confident and help you perform better in bed.
There is nothing sexier than a man who takes care of himself. Men, take a shower daily, brush your teeth, and floss regularly to keep your breath fresh and keep your facial hair in shape. Also, keep your nails trimmed and wear cologne that smells good.
15. Try role-playing
Role-playing is a great way to spice up your sex life. If you’re bored with your usual routine, you can try pretending that one of you is someone else – maybe a celebrity or a character from a book or film. You could also try dressing up in costumes or even just wearing each other’s clothes!
It can also be more complex if you have time and energy for it — like when you can pretend to be an exotic stripper. You get the idea, right?
16. Try new positions
When it comes to sex, men can be pretty predictable. But you don’t have to be! Always try new and interesting sex positions that will spice things up, like the Cowgirl (woman on top), Reverse Cowgirl (man on top), and Doggy Style (doggy-style position).
If you’re desiring something different, look up some new positions or ask your partner what they’d like to try next time.
17. Do kegel exercises regularly
Most men don’t know about their pelvic floor muscles, but they’re an important part of their sexual health. Your pelvic floor muscles support the bladder, prostate, and penis, and they have a direct effect on your ability to have an erection.
Kegel exercises are designed to tone the pelvic floor muscles. They’re great for men who want to improve their sexual performance.
18. Don’t ignore her neck, shoulders, and ears
One of the most neglected parts of a woman’s body is her neck, shoulders, and ears because most men focus on their partner’s chest and face during sex. If you’re not already a fan of these spots, it’s time to discover them.
Neck, shoulders, and ears are the most sensitive part of a woman’s body, and touching those areas during sex will provide her with deeper pleasure.
19. Be a better flirt
Flirting is a great way to get your partner in the mood for sex. It’s playful, it’s fun, and it can help you gauge whether or not she’s interested in having sex.
Flirting doesn’t have to be all about sexual innuendo or double entendres — sometimes it’s just about being playful and having fun with each other. If you’re feeling up for it, try flirting during sex by saying something like “I love how wet you get” or “Your skin is so soft.” Your partner will likely feel more relaxed and aroused when she knows you’re enjoying yourself too!
20. Be spontaneous
Sometimes the best sex is the spontaneous kind. Whether you’re on a trip or at home, being spontaneous is key to having great sex.
In fact, sex isn’t just about the physical act itself; it’s also about anticipation, foreplay, and the build-up to the big moment. So have some fun with it by trying something new or taking her out for dinner at a new restaurant before heading home for what promises to be an explosive night.
21. Remove distractions from your bedroom
Your bedroom should be a place for relaxation and intimacy. It should also be a place of comfort, where you can free your mind of all the stresses of the day and focus just on each other.
Whether it’s a TV or computer screen, take it out of your bedroom so that when you’re in the act, you don’t get distracted by anything else.
22. Make eye contact during sex
Sex should be fun, but it can also be awkward if you don’t know what you are doing or if things are going wrong. The best tip I can give you is to make direct eye contact with your partner. This will let her know that you are trying to connect with her and that she shouldn’t be afraid of what is happening at the moment.
If she feels comfortable with what is going on, then she will feel more inclined to participate in whatever it is that you two are doing together.
23. Tell her what you like
Men tend to be more visual than women, which means that they’re more likely to focus on what they see instead of what they hear when it comes to enjoying themselves in bed with their partners.
But talking about what you like and don’t like can really make a difference. If you want to be specific, say things like “I loved when you did that thing with your tongue” or “That felt amazing.” If you want to be more general, just say something positive like “You’re so sexy.”
24. Initiate sex frequently
Women want to be desired by their partners as much as they want to be wanted and needed. If you don’t initiate sex, she may feel that she isn’t attractive or sexy enough for you to pursue her. And if you only initiate once in a while, she’ll feel too pressured whenever you do decide to make the first move.
So don’t wait for her to ask — just go ahead and take charge!
25. Talk dirty
Women love a man who can talk dirty to them during sex. It’s not just about the words either; it’s how you say them. The key is to be passionate, but not too aggressive. You also want to make sure that you’re not just saying anything at random.
A good way to do this is by asking her what she likes and then imitating it back to her. If she says something like “I like when you bite my nipples,” then follow up with “Yeah? What else do you like?” This is a great way to check in with her and see if there are any other things that she wants you to do during sex.
I have collected a list of 50+ dirty talk examples that you can refer to for more information.
26. Use your mouth
The mouth is one of the most erogenous zones on a woman’s body — and one of the easiest ways to make her feel good during sex. Men should use this fact to their advantage by kissing women all over their bodies (and even doing it before intercourse begins) instead of sticking with just lips-on-lips action.
And go kissing down there as well.
27. Don’t forget about the lube
Lubrication can be the difference between pain and pleasure. You don’t want to go into things dry — it can hurt! Not only that, but if she’s not wet enough, she may not be able to feel as much pleasure at all. The right lubricant will also help make sex easier for both of you by reducing friction during penetration.
Water-based lubes work well with condoms and won’t stain fabrics; silicone-based lubes last longer and provide more slip than water-based lubes do (but aren’t compatible with latex).
28. Try spanking
Most women love being spanked and the real reason behind it is spanking stimulates nerve endings in the vagina. According to Men’s Health, aim for the lower part of the butt; that engages more nerves and makes it more enjoyable.
Not everyone likes it, but most women do. So before spanking make sure she is okay with this.
29. Don’t fall into a routine
You might think that the way things have always been done is best, but if you want to keep things fresh and interesting in bed, then don’t fall into a routine. Try new positions or try using toys during sex instead of just using your hands or mouth.
Also, everyone is different, so don’t expect to have the same kind of sex with every woman. You might think that what works for one will work for every woman, but this just isn’t true. You need to pay attention to your partner’s desires and preferences so that you can give them what they want in bed.
30. Make a sex playlist
Sex playlists are a great way to get in the mood, and they work even better when you have a partner to do it with. You can create a playlist that’s just for the two of you, or share one with your partner.
You don’t have to be a music expert or even know a lot about sex. You just need to know what turns you on and what sounds you like.
31. Take it to the shower
The shower is a great place to get naked with your partner. It’s private, warm, and wet — the perfect combination for sex.
And if you’re not taking advantage of the shower for sex, you’re missing out on an opportunity for some steamy, intimate time with her.
32. Make out more
Before any fooling around occurs, make sure to spend some time making out with your partner. Kissing is one of the best ways to get both parties turned on, so don’t be afraid to spend some time kissing before moving on.
Make-out sessions can be just as hot as actual sex, but they don’t always have to lead to intercourse. Try making out for 10 minutes or so before you go further; it’s a great way to build up sexual tension and gives both partners a chance to get in the mood.
33. Avoid alcohol
Alcohol can make men lose their inhibitions and can lead them to do things they wouldn’t normally do. It can also lead to erectile dysfunction, as well as an inability to perform at all.
Alcohol also affects your judgment, so going home with someone you don’t know very well is not a good idea when you’re drunk.
34. Practice safe bondage
Bondage is all about giving up control and being at someone else’s mercy — but it doesn’t have to be scary or intimidating! You can start slow and easy by using handcuffs or other restraints, like silk scarves or Velcro cuffs (which are easier on your wrists). Bondage can be incorporated into any kind of sex play, whether it’s oral sex or penetration — it’s all about letting go and letting your partner take over!
But communicate to your partner about this earlier, some girls may not like bondage.
35. Practice semen retention
Semen retention is an important part of Taoist sexual practice. The idea is to hold your ejaculate in order to prolong your orgasm, and ultimately gain greater pleasure from it.
It can be difficult for guys to learn how to cultivate semen retention because of the way they were raised. Most boys grow up learning that ejaculation is the natural endpoint of sex and that it’s shameful to hold back your orgasm.
However, semen retention is a very useful skill to have. If you practice it regularly, you will experience more intense orgasms, as well as improved sexual health and vitality.
36. Try supplementing for increased libido
If you’re feeling like your sex drive is a little less than it used to be, there’s no need to panic. It might be time to try a supplement that can help boost your libido.
Zinc and magnesium are two minerals that can help increase libido in men. Zinc is the most important mineral for proper testosterone production, and magnesium helps convert it into its active form.
37. Don’t be afraid of using sex toys
There are plenty of men out there who are afraid to use sex toys in bed. They think that it’s a sign of weakness or that it will make them less manly. The truth is, though, that using sex toys can actually be a great help for men. It can help them learn new techniques and positions, which can improve their confidence in bed.
If she tells you that she wants a vibrator or some other type of sex toy, don’t be afraid to use it on her.
38. Make her feel comfortable
Women need to feel safe and secure during sex. If she feels like she’s being rushed or that the mood is too aggressive, she won’t be able to fully relax and enjoy herself. If possible, try to let her know what you’re planning on doing before you do it so she can get into the right mindset.
For that, avoid rushing it and keep communicating before and during the act.
39. Create an intimate environment
Make sure your bedroom is clean, comfortable, and welcoming. You want to be relaxed when you’re getting intimate with your partner so make sure everything is just right before you start.
Create a romantic atmosphere by lighting candles or using incense. Music can also help set the mood so try playing soft music while undressing your partner or putting on sexy lingerie.
40. Keep the lights dim
Lighting is important because it affects how we perceive things — and that includes our partner’s body. If the lights are too bright, you’ll be more focused on what’s wrong with their appearance rather than enjoying them for who they are.
It also makes it harder for your eyes to adjust to the dark later on when things start getting hot and heavy. So keep the lights low or turn them off completely until after the deed has been done.
41. Talk about your fantasies
It’s important that both partners feel comfortable enough with each other to share their fantasies openly and honestly without feeling judged or embarrassed about them.
This allows both parties involved to know exactly what turns them on and helps them have a better understanding of each other’s needs during intercourse or foreplay which can lead to more satisfying sexual experiences overall.
42. Smell good
Your sense of smell is directly linked to your brain’s pleasure center. So, make sure that you smell good before you go in for some action with your partner.
This can be done by applying body lotion or perfume on yourself before getting into bed.
43. Take off your clothes slowly and sensually
Women love foreplay, but many men think that if they’re not getting naked immediately, then they’re not doing something right. Make her wait for it by taking off your clothes slowly and sensually.
Let her know what you’re going to do next by telling her where she wants you most and how badly she needs it. This is a great way to get her excited about what’s coming next!
44. Make noise during sex
Women are often encouraged to be vocal about what they like in bed, but men are supposed to maintain a stoic silence — even if they’re enjoying themselves.
In reality, both men and women benefit from making noise during sex, because moaning can be used as a way of signaling that you are excited and things really are feeling good. It also conveys what feels good and what doesn’t.
45. Don’t eat right before sex
Don’t eat right before sex. Eating too much before having sex can make you tired and bloated. You don’t want either of these things when you are trying to make love with your partner!
Many experts recommend avoiding heavy meals within two hours of having sex so you can focus on burning those extra calories instead of digesting them first.
46. Go for the A-spot
The A-spot is a sensitive spot on the front wall of the vagina that you can reach by inserting a finger or your penis and moving it in a “come here” motion. It’s also sometimes called the AFE zone (for anterior fornix erogenous zone). The A-spot is not to be confused with the G-spot, which is located deep inside the vagina.
The A-spot can be stimulated through oral, vaginal, or anal sex.
47. Consider a threesome, maybe
Sure, some women might be turned off by the idea of having sex with two people at once. But if you and your partner are open to the idea, then it could be an exciting experience for both of you.
However, threesomes should always be between friends who trust each other implicitly and have no reason not to believe they’ll have a good time together. Inviting complete strangers into your bedroom could lead to an awkward situation.
48. Don’t forget about aftercare
Talk to her about what they need after sex — whether that’s cuddling or space. Aftercare is just as important as foreplay!
After you’ve both finished having sex, it’s important not to roll over and go to sleep. Instead, cuddle up together, talk, and kiss some more before going to sleep. This will ensure that both of you feel satisfied and happy with what happened in bed.
49. Cuddle a lot
Cuddling is one of the most underrated activities in a relationship. It is something that men don’t want to do because it looks weak. But it’s great at the beginning of a relationship when you’re still trying to get to know someone. It’s also great later on when you are more familiar with each other and need something physical and emotional to hold onto.
Not only does cuddling release oxytocin (the bonding hormone), but it also reduces stress and releases tension
50. Compliment her body
You don’t have to be a poet to give good compliments. You just need to be honest and genuine. And if you’re going to compliment her body, make sure it’s something she would appreciate being told.
It doesn’t matter if she has cellulite or stretch marks — just tell her what you think about her body in bed. Tell her that she looks beautiful and that you love the way she looks. This will make her feel more confident about herself when she’s having sex with you, and it will also turn her on so much more!
51. Experiment with edging
Bringing yourself close to orgasm but then stopping before reaching climax is called “edging.” It’s a way to build up sexual tension and prolong the excitement — and it works for both men and women.
The goal is to keep yourself right on the edge of orgasm as much as possible without going over it. This will allow both of you to experience heightened levels of pleasure.
52. Try a cock ring
A cock ring is a band that goes around your penis, usually at the base. It can be made of silicone, metal, or rubber and comes in all kinds of shapes and sizes (even colors). The basic idea behind a cock ring is that it restricts blood flow out of the penis, causing an erection that lasts longer.
A simple cock ring can provide extra clitoris stimulation to her.
53. Use butt plugs
Anal play can be really fun for both partners if done right — and it can be really uncomfortable or painful if not done right! Try starting off with small butt plugs that have a flared base at their base and gradually work up to bigger ones as you get used to anal penetration.
The key here is communication: talk about what feels good for both of you before trying anything new.
54. Trace circles on her clitoris
When you are playing with her vagina before the penetrative sex, try using your fingers to stimulate her clitoris. According to a survey by Men’s Health, 3 out of 4 women prefer when their clitoris is touched in a circular motion.
And not just by the finger, but tracing circles on the clit with your tongue will take her to the moon.
55. Switch positions
Changing up the position in which you have sex can take things from boring to exciting in no time flat. Switching positions is a great way to keep things interesting when you’re having trouble coming up with new things to do in bed!
There’s nothing wrong with having a few favorites, but it’s also fun to mix it up and try new things. Try switching things up every time you have sex so that neither of you gets bored with the routine.
56. Make a sex bucket list
Making a sex bucket list is a fun way to explore new things with her. Make a list of everything you’ve ever wanted to try in bed and work your way through it! You don’t have to do everything at once — just pick one thing from the list each time you have sex.
Don’t forget to communicate with her about the bucket list, she might add some new ideas to the list as well.
So there you have it, our big list of sex tips to help guys last longer in bed. The truth is, most men will get hung up on performance anxiety at one point or another.
The solution? Kill the thought that you have to orgasm.
If you go into sex focusing on your partner’s pleasure, you’re less likely to worry about your own orgasm. It’s a mental process that many guys do not enjoy doing but can make all the difference as to how long they last in bed.